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Gratitude is the beginning of Thanksgiving

11/21/2016

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​There I was looking at the blinking cursor on the computer screen. Many are curious as to how I face the various faces of mortality on a regular basis and not get affected in my personal life and philosophy.  The truth is I am extremely affected by my service to the dead and the constant reminder that I am just renting time on the globe. I do see life differently than most and I also have my own personal coping mechanisms.
 
I turned towards the familiar clicking sound on the floor as my dog walked over and looked as studiously at his empty water dish as I did the computer.  Occasionally he would look at me and then back his dish. It is a known dog theory that if you look at anything long enough you will get what you want.
 
With a sigh of exasperation, I went over to his dish, filled it, and replaced it on the stand. My dog’s name is Sherlock. He is a golden doodle although I am not sure he is not a spirit from another realm, placed here by a universal intelligence to keep me sane, allowing me to decompress after another day of death and destruction.
 
I actually got him with the possibility of being a working cadaver dog but shortly realized it would destroy his gregarious personality. It was soon obvious that he was far more suited as a comfort dog.  So many times I would be explaining to families how their loved one died as they were petting or hugging Sherlock. It was as though he knew they need a little therapy and love.
 
He has turned out to be my constant companion to whom I can relieve my tension and even tell him how interesting or tragic a day had been. It has always been curious to me how dogs have this intimate, familial relationship to man.  The science part of me says, “Well of course, they have two sphincters in their rectum so they can be house trained.” That may be one factor but I prefer to think the great reason is a psychological connection. Dogs have a unique capacity of being able to love unconditionally.
 
He has become so much a part of my life. It reminds me of a poem, Dharma, by Billy Collins, one of America’s greatest poet laureates:
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The way the dog trots out the front door
every morning
without a hat or an umbrella,
without any money
or the keys to her doghouse
never fails to fill the saucer of my heart
with milky admiration.

Who provides a finer example
of a life without encumbrance-
Thoreau in his curtainless hut
with a single plate, a single spoon?
Gandhi with his staff and his holy diapers?

Off she goes into the material world
with nothing but her brown coat
and her modest blue collar,
following only her wet nose,
the twin portals of her steady breathing,
followed only by the plume of her tail.

If only she did not shove the cat aside
every morning
and eat all his food
what a model of self-containment she
would be,
what a paragon of earthly detachment.
If only she were not so eager
for a rub behind the ears,
so acrobatic in her welcomes,
if only I were not her god.
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​Have a great week, pet your dog, and have a great Thanksgiving.
 
Graham
9 Comments
Shannon O'Shea link
11/21/2016 08:46:54 pm

I hope you and your family (and Sherlock!) have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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Sunny Shelley
11/21/2016 08:48:33 pm

You have a great Thanksgiving and I miss your show

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Cindy Hooven
11/21/2016 09:28:18 pm

Here's to a good Thanksgiving and holiday season to you and your family, and to the next season of your show!

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Pat Flanery
11/22/2016 04:03:24 am

Happy Turkey Day, Dr. Hetrick, to you, your family and Sherlock! I don't have a dog but I do have two kitties and four Blue Celestial Parrotlets!! I will hug them! 😻😻🐦🐦🐦🐦🦃

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Pat Gergel
11/22/2016 09:12:01 am

Thanksgiving means so much more than turkey, so it's important for us to all relax and enjoy the day and all it has to give us. Family, children, pets, neighbors .... All sharing love on this holiday.

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Gayle Rockelli
11/22/2016 09:46:52 am

Wonderful thoughts put to paper (uh, computer screen). Your writing flows naturally and always connects to the human spirit reminding me of dogs past and cats present. Grateful for what has been, what is and hopeful for what is to come.

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Chris Braine
11/23/2016 09:03:50 am

How I lived before I lost her.

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Rosanne Govea
11/24/2016 08:08:56 am

Have a Happy Thanksgiving. I'm sure Sherlock will enjoy the hustle and bustle and the sneaking of treats to him under the table! I understand how an animal can help you to decompress after an unusually trying day. I always run to my kitty when I need a pick me up. His fur never fails to relax me.

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Joanne Ahrendt
12/27/2016 11:08:25 pm

Thank you for your wonderful post and I couldn't agree more, my life has always been a little difficult and peppered with sad and bad events but for the last 18 years I was lucky enough to have my best friend and companion Jasper by my side constantly and as well as always being there to comfort me he always knew how to make me laugh. He died last month and I miss him like nothing else, every time I hear a noise in the house I think its him for a second until my Brain reminds me of the reality. The only comfort I have is that during those 18 years we both knew we were loved so I really do understand where you're coming from. Cherish every moment you have together.

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